Throughout our lives, we seek happiness. We want to find the perfect job or the perfect mate or the perfect home in order to be happy. We look for things and people that will bring us the joy that we feel is missing in our lives. We search for ways to change our lives in order to find ourselves, our joy, or even our peace. The challenge with the search is that it is often in the wrong direction. Happiness has never come from stuff, or people, or places that we live. Those are things that we may desire, but they are not the end-game.
In lesson 121 from A Course In Miracles, I was reminded that to give forgivenss and to receive forgiveness are one in the same. My personal unhappiness doesn't come from whether or not I am successful in life. It comes from whether or not I am holding on to unforgiveness. When I refuse to give forgivenss, I am also refusing to receive forgiveness in my life. I condemn myself to unhappiness when I refuse to see the light in other people. I condemn myself to receive anger from others when I hold onto anger at others. My desire is to be at peace, which means that I must see the light that shines in those around me, even in those that I have previously seen as ones who have done me wrong.
We spend way too much time in our lives believing that others need to see the world from our angle. We look at people who are different from us, who have done things that we don't think are right, or who we perceive have wronged us and we become angry. Someone posts something on facebook that we disagree with, so we are offended and withhold joy from them. We refuse to forgive people who voted for one candidate or the other. We hold barehanded onto the acid of unforgiveness, waiting for it to hurt the other person. All we are doing is hurting ourselves. We are hurting our chance at joy and peace and happiness by being angry with others. Today, I choose to see the light in others, to see the good. Today, I choose to let go of the need to be right and simply love. Today, I accept that forgiveness is the key to happiness.
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.