A successful leader is one that can build a solid foundation with the bricks that people have thrown at them. In this life, there will always be trouble. There will always be one person or another that is throwing bricks at the leaders who are moving forward. It isn't that any of us really want to have to dodge a brick, nor do we want to take any of the direct hits. It is somewhat foolish to think that you will never have to deal with problems though. Problems are simply a fact of life, and as such, we need to address them head on.
One of the toughest things that we do is take one of those bricks to the face. When we find ourselves in a situation where we didn't actually do wrong but we are being accused of something, it hurts our ego. If you have been a leader for very long, you have likely already found yourself in one of those situations where arguing with the person about your innocence is somewhat pointless. At times, we simply have to apologize for the situation, accept the blame for something that we didn't do, and move forward. If a person is operating as a bundle of emotions, they may attack us. When they are operating as such, it won't really matter what we say, they have already made up their mind about our guilt. When I have found myself in those situations, I simply apologize that the situation exists, assure them that there was non ill intent, and focus on moving forward.
Some people in this life, particularly in business, simply want to be mad. As a consultant, I have found that I am the scapegoat for people's negative emotions at times. I come back to a statement that has helped me stay balanced. Nothing is real except for the things that I make real. I have to create the label before it is real. I have to give it meaning before it has any meaning. This means that I can choose to humble myself, apologize, and move forward. I can still believe in myself and in the mission that I am here to accomplish. I can still be proud of myself. I don't have to be beaten down. Those are simply labels that I choose. What are the labels that you are choosing for the tough situations in your life?
Are you choosing to believe in yourself despite the bricks that are being hurled at you? I would challenge you to do so. You are worth it! Pick yourself up after any tough challenge. Dust yourself off. Move forward!
To Your Success!
Jody N Holland
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.