Lack of direction is the problem
"Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have 24 hours in the day."
The way I see it, there are only a few reasons why people actually fail in life. They are things that pretty well anyone can fix if they are willing, but most won't because of some level of fear. When a person deals with these things, they tend to get their focus and achieve their goals.
The simple formula for success in life that will help you accomplish more and be more fulfilled is...
DD + M + L + A = S
Definite Direction + Motivation + Learning + Action = Success
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
Tod Geisel woke up one day, frustrated with the challenges that kids had in reading as well as their inherent lack of desire to read. He decided that it was time that he made a difference. It wasn't time for someone else to do something that helped someone. It was time for him, Tod, to do his part. He approached his boss about the dilemma and indicated what he, an illustrator not a writer, wanted to do.
His boss looked at him and through a bit of conversation indicated that he needed to write something in such a way that any 6-year old could understand it. He provided him with a paltry 225 words, most of which were two syllables and few of which were verbs. Some of us would have looked at the limitation and said, "I can't do it! There aren't enough words." That isn't what Geisel did though. Instead, he looked at the narrow list and embraced the challenge. He found two words that rhymed and that sounded fun to say together. He then began writing a story with a rhyme that would forever change the way that kids learned to fall in love with reading. Tod Geisel, whom we know as Dr. Seuss, first penned The Cat In The Hat, and published it in 1957.
His ability to engage young readers and create fond memories of reading for older readers changed learning by connecting it to fun. Being inspired means asking a better question. We have to ask ourselves what we can do NOW with what we have NOW. Instead of trying to figure out what we need to have in order to get started, we need to realize that our job is simply to reveal the story in the limited list of words. the cat was always in the hat, but Geisel had to put the words in the right combination with the right rhyme in order for the rest of the world to see it.
What is the story that is inside of you? Are you looking at your limitations to come up with why it won't work, or are you looking at the narrow scope that makes it easier to reveal the story that has always been there? It is your focus, not the limitation, that determines what happens next. Focus on what you can do to move things forward instead of what is in your way that might be tough to overcome. As I was walking last night, the thought hit me that there really are no limitations to the person who is unafraid.
Geisel, Dr. Seuss, was unafraid to accept the challenge and move forward. Are you unafraid? Will you face whatever fear stands in front of you to reach the story of who you could be on the other side? Go write a great story today!
Author, Speaker, Trainer, Coach
I am in a class on Economic Psychology this semester and was assigned the book, The Upside of Irrationality, by Dan Ariely. I have read this book before as well as one of his other books, Predictably Irrational. Dan is a professor at MIT and has been fascinated with why people do the things that they do. In a study that he and some of his graduate students conducted, they recruited people that wanted to build legos. Many of us have fond memories of building with legos when we were younger, so the process of finding people who were willing to get paid to build with legos was fairly easy.
In the experiment/research, he set it up where a person would get paid $2 for the first lego-bot that they built, following the instructions given. After that, if they wished to continue, they would get $.11 less for each lego-bot until it got down to being paid nothing. With the first group of people, they simply acknowledged the person for each bot built and placed the bots in a box underneath the table. For the second group of people, they disassembled the bots in front of them and placed the pieces back in the box for them to put back together should they wish to continue. What was interesting to me was that a simple nod from the researcher was enough motivation (small m) for the person to feel some level of validation. The people that did not get a nod and that had their work destroyed in front of them, produced 40% less work.
The sad part to all of this is that most economist, as well as consultants would conclude that you needed to pay on an increasing scale instead of a decreasing scale in order to maintain motivation for work. The truth is, however, that it is not the pay. Instead, it is the acknowledgement that matters. A simply act of acknowledging the work of another person will help them to feel that their work matters. It is the relationship that drives them forward and the "feeling" of belonging to a team that is producing results.
Ariely has done several research projects that reinforced that it is motivation (small m) and Motivation (capital M) in its various facets that yield the production of great work and satisfying work rather than pay. In fact, tomorrow, I will explain how large bonuses and if-then rewards actually reduce both retention and motivation. If you are trying to retain your people, motivate your people, and produce positive results in the workplace, you must focus on the atmosphere you are creating rather than the act of work itself. People are continuously looking for validation that their work matters. Something as simple as a nod in recognition of work completed can make a huge difference in performance output.
Most of us are busy. Most of us are trying to figure out what our life is really all about. In fact, most of us are getting to the end of our weekends and thinking... Is this it?! We often wonder if there is more to life than "the schedule." We wonder if we are doomed to be stuck in the perpetual cycle of "good enough" or if there really is a way to master this thing called life.
When you step back from your life and begin to evaluate all that there is around you, you begin to realize that much of your life is currently being controlled by people other than you. You realize that the world has been pulling you, pushing you, poking and prodding you into doing what it wants. You realize that the circumstances of life have been dictating your reality instead of you choosing your reality.
I want you to know that you have a choice. You have a choice on everything that you are doing and on everything that you allow into your life. You can and should filter out the things that do not help you to flow into your purpose in life. When I look at my own life, I realize that there are things that are not in line with my stated purpose. Upon that realization, I begin to evaluate ways in which I can eliminate the non-essentials. Trust me, there are plenty of worthy causes for your time. However, the only worthy causes that are truly worthwhile are the ones that help you move one step closer to your true purpose in life.
So, my challenge to you is to state what it is that your purpose will be this week and then filter everything that you do through that purpose. If it doesn't move you in the direction of your purpose, no matter how "worthy" the cause is, don't do it. If it does move you in the right direction, then by all means, do it! You will find what I have found. That is that only about 20% of what you have been doing will actually move you in the right direction. That means that your life could be much easier than it is right now. It could be that 80% of what you are doing could go away without negatively impacting your destiny. The trick is to find the 20% as quickly as possible. That is accomplished through this filtering process.
So, what are you waiting for? Choose your 1-week purpose and begin to filter the activities of your day through that filter! Go get 'em!
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Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.