I had a conversation with one of my daughters late last night about why struggle doesn't mean that you are a bad person. It means that you are a growing person. She was very upset about having a "C" in one of her classes. She is a straight "A" student and was devastated at how poorly she had scored on a quiz. She talked about how she just can't be a bad student. It isn't who she is. As she identified her self-worth and her overall being in that grade, it made me realize how hard it had been for me to separate "ME" from my company.
I have been in business for 16 years now. It has NOT been all pleasant. I have made A's, B's, C's, and quite a few F's in my business life. Even though I wasn't getting a school grade, I have had 2 CPA's, 2 Bankers, and 3 life coaches tell me that I should give up and just "get a job." I would like to point out that I don't work with any of them anymore. I was told that things were so bad that I couldn't succeed over and over again. I have even had some serious struggles with trying to keep my head up and overcome the depression of the business being me. Thankfully, there was something inside of me that just wouldn't let me quit. It was in 2003 that I first came to the epiphany that I am me and my business is my business, but I am not my business. The business is what I do. It isn't the sum of who I am.
Once I was able to create some separation, I was able to look at each failure from a different perspective. For the first time, the failures were lessons to be learned. They were opportunities to grow and become better, to not make the same mistake again. As I looked around at other entrepreneurs, they were going through a lot of the same stuff as me. Some already had this perspective, while others still say themselves as the business itself. My belief is that we learn from every experience that we have. We learn to failures more than we learn from victories, though. We learn what doesn't work and we change the way that we think. When we only win, we assume that all is good and no growth is needed.
I am thankful for my struggles because they have made me into the man that I am today. I am thankful for being able to learn from those experiences. Look at your failures as life lessons. Change your perspective, your tactics, and your knowledge because of them. They are gifts that guide you along the path to success. And that path... it's not a straight shot. So, keep moving forward and know that you a success because you are still learning, changing, and growing.
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland - Author, Speaker, Entrepreneur
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.