Throughout our lives, we seek happiness. We want to find the perfect job or the perfect mate or the perfect home in order to be happy. We look for things and people that will bring us the joy that we feel is missing in our lives. We search for ways to change our lives in order to find ourselves, our joy, or even our peace. The challenge with the search is that it is often in the wrong direction. Happiness has never come from stuff, or people, or places that we live. Those are things that we may desire, but they are not the end-game.
In lesson 121 from A Course In Miracles, I was reminded that to give forgivenss and to receive forgiveness are one in the same. My personal unhappiness doesn't come from whether or not I am successful in life. It comes from whether or not I am holding on to unforgiveness. When I refuse to give forgivenss, I am also refusing to receive forgiveness in my life. I condemn myself to unhappiness when I refuse to see the light in other people. I condemn myself to receive anger from others when I hold onto anger at others. My desire is to be at peace, which means that I must see the light that shines in those around me, even in those that I have previously seen as ones who have done me wrong.
We spend way too much time in our lives believing that others need to see the world from our angle. We look at people who are different from us, who have done things that we don't think are right, or who we perceive have wronged us and we become angry. Someone posts something on facebook that we disagree with, so we are offended and withhold joy from them. We refuse to forgive people who voted for one candidate or the other. We hold barehanded onto the acid of unforgiveness, waiting for it to hurt the other person. All we are doing is hurting ourselves. We are hurting our chance at joy and peace and happiness by being angry with others. Today, I choose to see the light in others, to see the good. Today, I choose to let go of the need to be right and simply love. Today, I accept that forgiveness is the key to happiness.
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
The light of the world brings peace to every mind through my forgiveness.
Think back to what life was like for you growing up. Think about the chores and responsibilities that you had. When you were asked to go and complete a chore, and you dreaded it, the chore tended to be much more difficult. When you were asked to complete a chore, and you looked forward to it, then the chore was pretty easy. It wasn't the chore itself, but rather the thoughts about the chore that made it either enjoyable or dreadful. The same is true in anything and everything that we do in life.
When we look at our relationships and hold grudges about the past, then we lose the joy of the moment. When we look for bad things from others, we will tend to find them. It is our ability to look for the good in others that helps us to stand apart from the illusion. It is our choice to forgive that will bring salvation to a darkened world. I think back to the majority of the stories of healing from the Bible. In each of the stories, Jesus tells the person that their faith has healed them. The faith, their self-forgivenss and belief in salvation, that is what healed their ailment.
The parables from the Bible help us to understand that when we forgive, we impact everything around us. When we hold on to the wrongs of others, we are holding onto fear instead of faith. We are grasping at the fear that they will not have to pay for what they have done or how we think they have made us feel. Fear, my friend, is the opposite of love. Fear is unforgiveness. Faith is love and love is healing.
My forgiveness of myself and those that I encounter is what provides the pathway to salvation for others. My choice is to shine my light bright so that every mind may feel peace through my forgiveness; and so others might learn to forgive and bring peace to the world as well. What will your choice be?
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
I have had several significant times in my life when I was angry at a person. I was angry and how they had wronged me. I was angry at how little they cared for others and how self-centered they had been. I was angry that they could be such a jerk. I remember, in one particular case, holding on to that anger for over a year. It was eating me up from the inside out. It controlled where I went and what I talked about. It was destroying any chance I might have had at peace. Until finally, one day, I didn't want to give up control of my life to that person anymore. I remember consciously, willfully, forgiving that person. I immediately felt better. It was like a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders. I was free to be me again. I was free to share my light with the world.
The darkness that we experience is often of our own making. We cannot experience salvation when we are holding on to accusation. When we feel that we must be mad at others and must hold onto anger and resentment, it is a reflection of our ego's attack on us. We are literally attacking ourselves by not forgiving others. We are tearing away at our own soul in order to try to hurt someone else. It makes no sense. I heard one professor in college describe anger and unforgiveness as carrying around acid in our bare hands, waiting for it to burn someone else. Every angry attack on another person is an angry attack on our own weaknesses. Remember that you know your weaknesses better than anyone else. You know your vulnerabilities. When you do not forgive, you exploit all that is weak within yourself. There is only one pathway to peace... Forgiveness.
We can only share our gifts fully with the world when we have forgiven. We must forgive others and we must forgive ourselves. Darkness cannot exist in the midst of light. It cannot exist when you forgive. Remember that you want to be happy. You want to find peace. Forgiveness allows you to find peace and happiness now. It allows you to experience heaven now and escape from the hell of hate.
My hope for you is that you have peace today and that you are able to fulfill your function as the light of the world.
Work like you're playing a game.
Forgive like you were never hurt.
Share like you'll never run out.
Share joy like there's no tomorrow.
And shine like you'll never burn out!
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
Fellow Light Of The World
Those who have accepted their innocence and their connectedness to the Spirit, see nothing to forgive because they have never condemned. One of the most amazing feelings in the world is to NOT judge people and events around you. When you look at a person, it seems to be the natural human condition to judge them by their weight, their looks, their height, their skin color, or whatever other labels people can come up with. It is in judging others that we feel our own unforgiveness and our own self-judgement. Guilt is the result of desiring others to feel guilty for the labels that we are putting on them. It is through God's love that we forgive. God has not judged us and therefore we are forgiven through our own faith. His love is perfect and is not based on condemnation, but rather on salvation.
The strength to forgive doesn't exist in the realm of the ego, though. The great deception is that we cannot or should not forgive. This is the ego trying to keep you in a state of self-judgement. It is only through God's love that we have the strength to forgive others. It is through His salvation that we are saved. Throughout the day, we should focus on loving everyone and everything that we come into contact with. When we do that, we live in love instead of in fear. It is when we judge and label others that we find ourselves afraid. Fear is based in the ego. The Spirit sees no fear because there is nothing to fear in truth. Fear only exists in the realm of the illusion. Anxiety, fear, aggression, lashing out, all of these are a result of living in fear and living in the illusion. When we look at life and see only love for others and see that they want only the best for us, then we give up the illusions. We give up the fear that we have clung to for far too long.
People often lash out at others in order to alleviate their own self-judgement. The truth is that when anyone judges or lashes out it is because they are angry inwardly. It is their self-judgement that they project onto the world. The only cure for this is love. It is in loving others and truly desiring the very best for them that we are set free from condemnation. And it is only in God's love that we can forgive ourselves. Only then can we forgive the world.
When we choose love over fear, we begin to hear the voice of God through the Spirit. We are connected to the Spirit because we are one and the same with the Spirit. We hear the voice of God because that voice is a part of our own mind. When we listen to love, we are sustained throughout the day. We are made whole and see only good in the world around us. When we choose the illusion, we disconnect from the voice of God and hear only the fearful ramblings of this world. I choose to hear the voice of God throughout this day and every day. I choose to live in love and to let go of judgement and condemnation. I choose to forgive through the power of the Spirit and to see that I want the best for everyone around me and they want the best for me. People will go out of their way to be helpful to me today and to bring success to my life. They will do the same for you if you live in forgiveness.
Live your life in love, not fear!
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
Luke 17:21 (NIV) says, "nor will the people say, 'Here it is' or 'There it is' for the Kingdom of God is already in your midst."
The great deceiver would have us believe that we aren't good enough at our core. It would have us live with guilt and shame and torment so that we would never realize the beauty and holiness that is at the true core of who we are. It would have us believe that our power is limited because of the laws that were created by the ego to keep us in check. It would have us believe that there is no salvation for us and that we are not and never were blessed by the Creator.
But none of that is truth. The illusion is made up of nothingness. It is made up of the ego's feeble attempt to keep us down. We are the mighty because we are created in the image of the Creator. Our holiness envelops everything that we see the moment that we give up the illusion. It is from that place of connectedness with the Spirit that we are forgiven and that we forgive ourselves. The moment that we forgive ourselves, we have forgiven the world, and we become a blessing to all that we encounter. There is nothing, and I do mean nothing, that our connectedness cannot accomplish. Once we live in connectedness, we become unstoppable.
For me, I remember learning to do things that seemed impossible as a kid. When I was 9, I first learned to break a board with my hand in martial arts. My instructor had taught me the technique to throw a heel-palm, but it been just a theory. When he placed a board in front of me, resting on 2 cinder blocks, it was very different. He explained to me that the board was the illusion and that on the other side of the illusion was victory. He explained that I should never focus on the illusion. Instead, I must focus on the other side and the illusion would simply break away. So, the first time, I focused on the illusion and it stopped me dead in my tracks. It hurt! The second time, however, I focused a good 6 inches past the illusion and the board snapped as if it had never been there in the first place. Our focal point will determine our success. The illusion is that we are stoppable, that we are not good enough to change the world. The truth, however, is that all we have to do is see what is already there and stop focusing on what is not there. When we do that, the illusions will crumble and our holiness will save us. At that moment, the blessings begin.
It is in our connection to the source that we are saved and that we are blessed. Stay connected to truth and the illusions will not be there. You and I are already there. We are already in truth, so let's let go of guilt and let go of the illusions and walk in victory!
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.