I remember back to the 1990's when people were putting stickers on the backs of their vehicles that said, "No Fear." That seemed to be a popular thing at the time to tout that they simply had no fear about anything. They weren't afraid of dying, of living, of taking risks, of doing what they wanted to do, of tornadoes, spiders, or anything else. Although I know for sure that it was not true that people had no fear, it was great to pretend that we were living fearlessly.
Fast forward about 30 years and I look at living a life with no fear quite a bit differently than I did as a teenager. Back then it was about pretending that I wasn't afraid of anything, that I would take whatever risk was necessary. Today, living a life without fear is much more about learning to live above the things that scare me. As professionals, we worry about what our peers will think of us. We worry about how we will be judged if our ideas are not good. We worry about mental and emotional danger as well as physical danger. Come to think of it, those were the same things that we worried about before we were professionals. We worry because we lack the peace that we are seeking.
For me, living with a lack of peace is what it means to live a life of fear. Peace is the inner knowing that everything is going to work out just fine. It is the letting go of needing to control the outcomes of the world or the moment. It is living outside of the past or the future. It is embracing who we are in our entirety without the need to be anything or anyone else other than who we are. Living with no fear is to be. It is to be who you are and to live above the need to be anything or anyone else for anyone else.
As an adult, I am still striving to live with no fear, but for much different reasons. The opposite of peace is fear. To be broken is to live in fear. I choose to be whole. I choose to live in peace. Think about your professional life as well as your personal life. What do you desire? You may never get rid of those voices of doubt in your head. You don't have to. You simply have to learn to live above them.
Ultimately, it comes down to this... Either you believe in the truth of the Spirit or you don't. If you believe, then you realize that nothing that is true can be destroyed. If you don't, then you live in the illusion of the ego and everything is in jeopardy. I choose the truth. I choose to realize that there is literally nothing to fear.
I remember as an 11-year old being afraid. I was afraid of heights. I was afraid of roller coasters. I had gotten over my fear of dogs, thanks to Minky and Smoky, those were my best friend's incredibly large dogs. But I still had fear. I didn't want to be afraid anymore, of anything. I hated the way that it felt to let something that had not happened and wasn't even real control me. I didn't want to be consumed by those feelings. So, I did what any person wanting to not be afraid would have to do, I stepped into the fear. I stepped in and punched fear in the face.
My buddy, the one with the big dogs, and I had gone on a trip to Six Flags with our families and I rode roller coasters over and over again with him. I kept riding until I was no longer afraid. Even at that age, I could feel the illusion of fear slipping away and the truth of knowing whose I am and who I am replacing it. To this day, if I begin to slip into the illusion of fear, I turn to the power of the Spirit and claim the truth that there is literally nothing to fear.
My challenge to you would be to think about something that you believe that you are afraid of and ask a new question. Ask what you would have to believe about it to not be afraid. Then, spend at least five minutes focused on the belief that you would have to have to give up the fear.
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.