When I was young, my parents would warn me to be careful who I hung out because I would end up just like them. When I was young, like most young people do, I questioned that. I though, I will always be my own person and nobody can influence me! The truth is that little by little I became more like the people that I associated with. When I surrounded myself with toxic people, I became toxic. When I surrounded myself with happy and supportive people, I became like them.
People give off a sort of energy when you are around them. If you think about it, you can probably recall a person that seems to steal everyone else’s energy when they are around. I call those people “energy vampires.” They are unhappy and often don’t even know it. They are trying to bring other people down to their level in order make themselves feel better. On the other hand, there are people that are bubbling with life, full of good energy. When you are around one of those people and you are one of those people, you seem to build each other up.
Like knows like. For me, I had to become that right person in order to really start attracting like minded individuals. After all, good knows good and bad knows bad. When a person seeks out ways to be unhappy, then unhappy things are attracted to them. Your “peeps” have to be the right ones. They have to be the kind of people that want to see the best for you. They have to be the kind of people that encourage and support you and push you to make good decisions. If they are anything but that, then they are not right for your life.
The top three qualities of a good influence are…
1. They are other centered. They put others before themselves. They look at life from the angle of the other person as well as from their own vantage point.
2. They push the people around them to be better. They want you to make good grades, good choices, and good on your promises. They want you to improve your life.
3. They are careful who they associate with. They invest in people that are headed in the right direction and they insulate themselves from people who are headed in the wrong direction. It is never safe to allow others to drag you down. They know this and live by it.
So, be careful who your peeps are. Be careful who you allow to have influence over your life and your happiness. You deserve joy and you deserve good. Associate with the kinds of peeps that want you to have just that!
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.