The light of truth is the only lens through which we can see reality. All else that we witness is an illusion. We fool ourselves into thinking that we are operating independently of a greater power. We fool ourselves into thinking that we are "in control" of everything in our lives. We fool ourselves because we are in the darkness instead of in the light.
I recently watched the movie, "The War Room," where an elderly lady took a younger woman under her wing and helped her to understand the battle that she was really in. She helped her to step out of her life and see the spiritual connection that was missing. The younger woman had been going through life unhappy, without peace, and living in a marriage that was essentially loveless. The older lady taught her to do battle in her own "war room." By understanding the spiritual connection between herself and everything that exists, she began to see significant changes in herself. She forgave her husband for any wrong that he had done. She started spending time with her daughter and deepening that relationship. She started living in the light of truth instead of in the darkness of the illusion.
Many of the choices that her husband had made, which were not good ones, came to light when she began to love him without judging him. The love that she demonstrated in the marriage changed his heart. He owned up to the bad choices that he had made, including losing his job and his company car. He owned up to the bad choices that he had made in his marriage. He changed because he felt the love that is only felt in the light.
I know that there were a number of lessons in this movie, but the biggest lesson that I learned was that of seeing the miracle of healing. That miracle cannot exist in darkness. It cannot exist with unforgiveness. It can only exist in light of grace. Interestingly, grace is extended without condition. When we understand that it is not our place to judge. It is not our place to make the other person "change first." When we hold the light up to our own life and dispel the darkness and fear, we embrace a better path. It is one that was always prepared for us, but it is only visible when we live in love instead of fear or hatred.
People don't forgive because they are afraid that it isn't fair to themselves to forgive others. People worry that the other person will not forgive them back or they will not be gracious about the grace extended to them. The truth is that grace is extended to us all. It is given to us, not because we deserve it, but because we are loved without reservation.
We are not called into this life to change others. We are called into this life to live without fear, to love without hesitation, and to forgive without conditions. When we live in the light, the darkness of fear cannot coexist. We are called to simply live a life that is an example of love. When we do that, others will follow. And, if they don't, love them and extend grace to them anyway.
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.