Trivial things bring trivial results. Critical things bring critical results.
I woke up this morning and rolled over to look at my phone. I was going to see what the world had done without me for the last 8 hours. After all, I couldn’t imagine that they were surviving that well without me. Much to my dismay, my phone wasn’t there. I had moved it to the bathroom, away from my bed, just to make myself remember what was important. I know that there are only a few things that have a lasting impact on my life. My family, my faith, my health, my writing, my learning and my business are all important to me. However, I spend a lot of time on the things that don’t matter as well. In fact, I have found myself getting bent out of shape by the opinions of people that I have never met on Facebook. Crazy, right? Those trivial things, like social media, are not what bring critical results in my life. I know that I need to outline what is critical and sideline what is non-critical to live a happy life.
When I was still living at home with my parents, I spent a great deal of time in the evenings, just talking with them. We talked about my day and their days. We talked about school and friends and girls and dreams of the future. We talked about who I was and who I was becoming. They were great listeners. They wanted to know about my life and wanted to be a part of it. To them, and to me, that communication was a critical part of my day. I needed that time with them. I needed that interaction with them and they needed it with me. That was one of the things that mattered the most.
In my life today, my family, my spiritual life, exercise, writing, learning, and business are all important. At different stages of your life, you will have different things that are on your list of critical components of your happiness. We give up our joy when we give our time to the things that bring us down, to the things that don’t really matter to us but we are too afraid to tell people no, to the things that we were not designed for. My challenge to you today is to identify what your critical things are in your life and spend time on each one of them today. Talk to your kids, hold your spouse, read a good book, and do whatever it is that builds joy for you. Just as importantly, eliminate at least one thing from you day that doesn’t build joy. If you are angry after getting on social media, don’t get on social media any more today. Limit it if you need to. If watching football doesn’t bring you joy, but just makes you upset, stop! Eliminate one thing that you are spending time on that brings you down. Add the things in that matter the most.
To Your Success!
Jody N Holland
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.