I love the quote from Letters To Juliet – “Dear Claire, "What" and "If" are two words as non-threatening as words can be. But put them together side-by-side and they have the power to haunt you for the rest of your life:”
People spend time every day thinking, what if I would have don this, or done that. They wonder what their life would have been like if they had taken a certain job or dated a certain person. They wonder how their life would be different if they would have made the winning shot in high school. They wonder what life would have been like if they would have taken that chance or built that business or forgiven their family.
Spending time wondering what life would be like now if they had only done whatever it is that they didn’t do is like chasing down your joy and punching it in the face. When we chase away our joy with the “what ifs” of life, we are intentionally giving up the “what next” dreams that exist for us. We have made our past choices and they can’t be unmade. We can, however, control our present choices that will create a future victories. You are who you are and where you are because of the choices that you have made. That is awesome! That means that you were and still are in control of those choices. That means that you can make whatever choice you want right now. You can take your life in any direction that you desire.
It does you no good to think about the other path, the one that you didn’t choose or that they didn’t choose to include you on, the other path steals your joy. If you look back for too long, you will miss what is right here, right now, in front of you. Joy comes form letting go of the past and embracing the choice that you get to make now. Joy comes from making a choice and moving forward, letting go of the “what if” and embracing Nike’s philosophy of “Just Do It.” Just make the choice to be happy today. Just embrace the opportunities that exist for you, right here, right now.
To Your Success!
Jody N Holland
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.