What is it that I am looking for today?
Am I looking for ways to be happy?
Or, am I looking for reasons to be upset?
Chances are, that is exactly what I will get.
I remember the story of a man who lost his keys in the yard right after the sun had set. As he was looking for his keys under a street light, his spouse came out and asked what he was doing. He replied, “I am looking for my keys!” The street light wasn’t close to the car or the house, so she asked, “Did you lose them under the street light?” “No, but the light is so much better over here” was his response. I have found myself going toward the easy places to look instead of the right places to look for happiness too often.
John Lubbock said, “What you get depends upon what you are looking for.” It may not be that you get exactly what you want when you are looking for something. However, you will not get anything close to what you want if you are continuously looking for something else. If you are the type of person who is looking for things to go wrong, you will find that they often do. You will find that bad things are attracted to you when you are looking for, talking about, or focusing on bad things.
I know several people that are, what I would call, “Crap Magnets.” They talk about crap going wrong all day long. They post on social media about crap being bad. They focus on the crap that is happening to them and around them. Because they have their conscious minds trained in on the negative of this world, the negative responds in kind. This works in both directions. You can focus on the good of the world, or you can focus on the bad of the world. What you focus on is what stays in focus for you.
When I was first starting out in business, I irritated a number of my friends because I won a lot. I would win the raffle at the trade show. I would win gift certificate drawings from stores. I would win stuff all the time. Every day, during that winning time of life, I would start my morning by imagining all the good that the world had to offer and how much other people wanted for me to be successful. This simple act, no more than 5 minutes, set the tone for my day. I would challenge you to spend a few minutes today thinking about all the good that is around you and being grateful that people truly want the best for you.
If you are enjoying more happiness as a result of better thinking through this message, or the others, I would appreciate it if you would pass it along to your friends.
To Your Success!
Jody N Holland
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.