Every choice that we make in life is a choice between the ego and the Spirit. It is a choice between a grievance and a miracle. It is a choice between looking for what is good and what is right in a person or a situation versus what is evil and what is wrong in the same. The challenge is that it has become very easy to see what is bad because that is what our ego wants us to see. That is what we would see with our eyes as they are trained now. The key is to see with your Spirit instead of your eyes.
Whether I am talking about politics, or religion, or the NFL, or any other highly emotional topic, my focus has to be on who the other person is at their core and what their potential is. Some years ago in Houston, TX, I was hired to coach an executive at a hospital. He was struggling with getting his staff to gel together and needed some ideas on what he could do differently in order to move things forward. When he and I first started talking, he brought quickly that he was an atheist. I responded with, "ok," and then continued to talk about what was going on at the hospital. He followed up with, "Aren't you a Christian?" I answered, "yes." He then asked me if it bothered me that he was an atheist. He felt that we should be fundamentally opposed to one another. My response was, "I don't know much about you yet, but I do know that you have strong beliefs. Your belief that there is no god doesn't affect my belief. I am not asking you to change. I am not telling you that you are wrong. I am here to see the potential in you and help you to see it as well." At that point, he relaxed and we started working toward the success of his team. By the end of the day, he said, "I think I would be a Christian if people would accept me as me the way that you have."
I think that is true for all of us, whether we are talking about religion or workplace performance, or virtually anything else. We want others to see us for the good that we are and the potential that we have. When we hold grievances against a person for the choices that they have made, we lose our ability to see the potential that they are. Each person is a creation of the Creator, and as such, they deserve respect. To disrespect them is to disrespect the core of who you are. It is to walk away from the truth that all things are one and that we are truly connected through the Spirit.
We can only see a person's spirit when we stop looking with our eyes and start looking with our heart. My challenge to you today is to see people for who they can be, to let go of the hurt that the one person, you know the one in your mind right now, has done to you. Let go of your ego and take hold of your purpose. Look with your heart and see the good in the people and the circumstances around you.
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.