If you are like most people, you have had those times when you asked yourself something like, "Why am I so dumb?" I know that I have had my fair share of opportunities to realize my ridiculousness and criticize my shortcomings. The problem with speaking to myself that way is that I will eventually provide an answer as to why exactly I am dumb. I have worked hard over the last decade to change the way that I converse with... me. In days gone by, I would question myself on my intelligence, my work ethic, my looks, and a host of other things. Until one day, I began to wonder what my impression of me would be if I asked better questions.
That was the day that I started asking myself why I was so smart, so handsome, so dedicated and so driven. I began forcing my subconscious mind to come up with reasons why things were going so well. In doing so, it changed my perspective. It reshaped my perception, which according to psychology, is my reality. I began to change my world because I first changed the way that I spoke to me. I simply decided that I wanted to see the best in myself and so... I did.
In looking further into the phenomenon of life change by better questioning, I discovered that our subconscious mind doesn't judge the validity of a question, it simply provides an answer. After all, that is what it was designed to do. Because of the design, it wasn't the answer that was the problem. Rather, it was the question. When we ask ourselves why we are bad, our subconscious simply takes the input and spits out its very best answer. When we ask ourselves why we are so smart, it does just the same. Consciously, we can control the way in which we question ourselves and speak to ourselves. With that being the case, we can control the way that we see the world by ensuring that we ask uplifting questions instead of destructive ones.
My challenge to you would be to only ask positive questions of yourself for the next 72 hours. See how your world begins to change and measure the way in which you feel when you use more uplifting, and more interesting questions!
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.