My youngest said something very interesting to me today. It's actually a statement that I know I have made in the past, at least pretty close to it. I have even heard executives from around the world use it. She said, "I wish I was as confident out there as I am at home." I prodded her to explain a little further what she meant. She said that she knows that her family loves her and it is just easier to be confident when you know that. It made me think about the way that we portray ourselves, or carry ourselves, when we believe that we are loved unconditionally versus when we believe that we are being judged. My next question to her was the one that made her and I both think.
What would you have to believe in order to be just as confident, or maybe more confident, when you are not at home?
She said that she would have to believe that others were not judging her and that they wanted her to succeed. I then asked her how she knew that they didn't want her to succeed. She couldn't come up with anything specific. I then asked if she could see them telling her that they wanted her to succeed, and she said yes. We practiced holding the belief that others wanted the best for her and were not judging her.
It will likely take several times to revamp the thought patterns, but they can change. It is our belief that creates our thought. As I head into another week of work, I have to ask myself that question as well. What would I have to believe in order to close 3 new deals this week?
I would have to believe that I have something incredible to offer that will make people's lives better... which I do. I would have to believe that the sooner I can get them started, the sooner I can increase their profits... which I also believe. I would have to believe that they need me to prompt them to buy now and they are counting on me to guide them down the path to a better culture, higher profits, and lower turnover... which I will.
What would you have to believe to have an incredible week this week?
To Your Success,
Jody N Holland
Author, Speaker, Entrepreneur
Jody is a writer, motivational speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He has been the keynote speaker at over 250 events around the world. Jody speaks more than 150 times per year at different programs, and he has given more than 10,000 speeches during his career.